He says the more he likes you, the harder it is for him. If he really liked me he would have come and talked to me This is the biggest female misconception: One note here: well-placed insecurities can push the “need to protect her” button in a man.ġ2 Traits of High-Value Women (With Examples) This would be the “nice girl” of Why Men Love Bitches (read: better strong woman or submissive woman?). On the other hand, the author says, low confidence and uncertain women are doing things to please others.Ī confident man will lose interest in an uncertain woman, and men can always sense when a woman is uncertain about herself. Like Harvey says in Act Like a Lady, many “strong, independent women are also lonely”. She is unaffected by superficial things and is neither intimidated nor overly impressed by looks, money or high status. She is also confident in making her needs clear when they’re not being met and is able to walk away from relationships that do not fulfill her.

Hussey says that a high-value woman is confident in her own value and knows what she wants. The author concedes that “high value” is relative, but certain traits are fixed. Hussey says that getting the guy starts with yourself.Īs much as you’re looking for a man of high value, men are looking for women of high value too. I don’t it’s a good strategy for a woman: it’s too overbearing. The “owner story” is popular in men’s dating advice. The author then tells a story of a club owner he met who seemed confident and in control, and suggests you should adopt the “owner mentality”. Take in the environment, see and let yourself be seen.

On “how to work a room” Matthew suggests to stop and stand when you enter into new venues. Matthew Hussey advises an old technique around the social improvement field: says yes every time, to every invite. He urges to drop that mentality, build a lifestyle where you meet tons of new men and give as many men as possible a chance.ħ Biggest Dating Mistakes Women Do (Before Sex) They think it will somehow just happen, or that if it’s meant to be the right guy will just somehow materialize. Hussey says most women meet too few guys. He says he’s qualified to teach women how to get guys because he’s spent years coaching men in dating and he knows how men think. Matthew Hussey first started out as a dating coach for men in the then-budding “pick-up scene” and later transitioned to coaching women. Keep the guy marrying high-value qualities with male needs.Get the guy with a mix of challenge, value, and connection (+ visual chemistry).Find the guy with a mix of pro-activeness and high value.

Matthew hussey book review